Friday, February 14, 2014

What is Love?

As Haddaway famously said back in 1993. We're all familiar with romantic, ooey-gooey love that populates Harlequin romance novels, but love can come in a variety of forms. There is... (thank you Wikipedia)
Eros – a passionate physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love
Ludus – a love that is played as a game or sport; conquest; may have multiple partners at once
Storge – an affectionate love that slowly develops from friendship, based on similarity (kindred to Philia)
Pragma – love that is driven by the head, not the heart; undemonstrative; pragmatic love with the purpose of achieving a common goal, as in a coalition
Mania – obsessive love; experience great emotional highs and lows; very possessive and often jealous lovers
Agape – selfless altruistic love
There is also “platonic love”—a love of the mind rather than the body.  “Puppy love” is where a younger person may infatuate on an older, mentor-like individual.  And we can’t forget the love between a parent and a child.

So what types of love populate your stories? 

And Happy Valentine’s Day!


  1. I wasn't familiar with all those kinds of love - can see they'd all make good stories though!

    My stories often feature the love between friends, romantic love and the love experienced in families.

    1. Remember learning about the different kinds of "love" in a psychology class. Was pretty interesting stuff, and thought it'd be useful for writing since romance stories make up a large part of publishing.

  2. Thanks so much for sharing this! I LOVE that list, gives me some new ideas. I find lists like this very helpful.

    I'm a romantic so I write about love all the time. Parental love, romantic love in all its healthy and unhealthy forms, friendship love, grandparent/grandchild love. I especially like writing about young love before it gets all complicated. I've actually started writing love into my speculative fiction pieces. So far, they have NOT been popular submissions. :) But, I'm not ready to give up yet. My robot factory love story rocks. ♥

    1. I know what you mean, I've got one submissions that deals with love--albeit, an incestuous love--but no one but me seems to like it. :(

      Hope one day to see your speculative fic love stories, Von Rupert. :)

  3. Plenty of mania in my stories, but I don't know how loving it is. A timely, informative post, Siobhan.

    1. Mania is a fun one, gotta love it in King's Misery. :D